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Hi! It’s 1 in the morning, which means I have time to write my blog. It’s funny, because back in high school I used to use my blog as a silly place to rant and talk about life and boy problems. I think a lot of people did–hence why Livejournal and poorly designed Blogger websites were so popular.
Now, though, everything is about content and SEO and ranking high and getting pageviews and monetizing. The Internet isn’t personal anymore; it’s a money-making machine. And that has felt very lonely at times.
What have I been up to? Well, aside from my awesome day job as the Community Facilitator over at SEA Founders, I’ve been preparing for Ubud. Because yes, I’ll be at Ubud Writers + Readers Festival alongside some of the most talented writers in the world. It still feels like an absolute dream. These past few weeks have been a mess, what with moving to the new house and going to Singapore (twice!) and everything else. Life is busy. I’m sure you know that well.
Like always, I’ve been struggling with doubt and confusion about who I am and what I’m doing and whether or not I should continue what I’ve been doing this whole time. Confession: I’ve been dealing with a lot of pent-up frustration recently, which I think stems from this internalized idea that I shouldn’t complain about what I’m going through because I’m so lucky to have what I do. As a result, I’ve been lashing out passive-aggressively quite a lot recently.
I’ve been trying to take a “break” of sorts and kind of return to a schedule; the recent commotion has left me scrambling for time and struggling to make sense of everything that’s been going on. I’ve been thinking more and more about that Australian travel blogger who went nuclear and deleted her Instagram page; I wonder how she’s doing and if she’s living her best life. The more time I spend on Instagram and Facebook, the more I get sucked into pretty pictures and this idea that I’m not “flawless” enough or not “aesthetic” enough or not this enough or that enough, that I’m not “engaging” enough with my followers, etc., etc.
The truth is that I’m tired and burnt out, more than slightly so, and I have too little energy for social media except as a silent consumer of all these gorgeous images and curated everythings. So if you’re reading this and you’re a follower, then I’m sorry.
Anyways, my short story was published a week or two in the Jakarta Post! It’s an excerpt; I cut a lot out to make room for the word count limit. Maybe one day I’ll share the full version with everyone! It was originally titled “Mania”; they tacked on the “Painting” part.
I hope, as always, that you have a wonderful day.
Hi everyone, I rarely do this type of post (admittedly, I haven’t blogged much at all in the past year or so..) but I wanted to share this as a 1) reminder for myself and 2) resource for any of you who may be looking for the Lucky Bags/Fukubukuro from our favorite Japanese brands.
In case you didn’t know, fukubukuro are a tradition in Japan. Initially, they were created to move old stock and make room for new things—it’s generally considered bad luck to have things from the previous year. In the past, many fashion fukubukuro would include things that hadn’t been popular and sold at discounted prices.
Now, though, many of the popular Japanese kawaii fashion companies will manufacture and design fukubukuro-only clothes. Preorders generally open mid-end November and early December, so hopefully this post is right on time.
Anyways, in case you want to buy any of these, you can try zenmarket.com/Buyee/Tenso (shipping forwarder companies, who will place the order in Japan, have it mailed to their warehouse, re-packed, then sent to you) or Tenshi, an independent shopping agent who I’ve heard many wonderful things about.
Brand: one spo
Options: Caramel Latte or White Mocha
Price: 10,800 yen (tax included)
Items: 8 (including bag)
Contents: Fur Neck Warmer, Jacket, Beret, One Piece, Hoodie, Skirt, Bag Belt, Bag
Comments: I didn’t like these at first, but the more I look at them the more they’re growing on me. The bag is really cute. I’m not 100% sure about the hoodie but I think everything else is adorable!
Options: Sweet or Girly
Price: 8,000 yen (tax excluded)
Items: 5 (including bag)
Contents: Tank Top, Jacket/Sweater, Skirt, Blouse, Bag
Comments: Anmille is a sister brand of evelyn, which we’ll see below. I like this set. With tax and shipping, though, it ends up being around 9,500 yen—and I wasn’t able to justify this purchase since most of the items seem fairly standard. You could get the tank top and long skirt pretty much anywhere.
Options: Black Mix or Off White
Price: 8,000 yen (tax excluded)
Items: 5 (including bag)
Contents: One Piece, 2 x Blouse, Skirt, Bag
Comments: I think I’m going to be getting this fukubukuro. I fell in love with it at first sight! I appreciate how easy the set is to coord, especially because I’m a big lazy butt. The neckline on the blouse is just so sweet and doll-like, and I love the frills on the other top-sweater-thing.
Brand: Honey Cinnamon
Options: Unisex or Girly
Price: 10,800 yen (tax excluded?)
Items: 5 (including bag)
Link: not yet available (?), launching on December 1st
Contents: Outer, Blouse, One Piece, Skirt, Bag
Comments: I was waiting on Honey Cinnamon and a few other brands to make my decision about fukubukuro this year, since it’s my first time, but I’m not really feeling the contents of this happy bag! In a sense it was a relief because there are so many other happy bags I want, but still.. The bag is really cute but the blouse looks thin (and it’s one that I could get anywhere). The pockets on the skirt are just so bafflingly huge that I don’t know if they’d look good on me. And the dress is also one that we’ve seen in plenty of other lineups this year.
Brand: Ank Rouge
Options: Black or Pink (?)
Price: 16,200 yen (including tax)
Items: 7 (including bag)
Contents: Outer (Jacket), 3 x One Piece, 2 Surprise, Bag
Comments: This fukubukuro is a little bit on the expensive side, but they’ve definitely released some adorable sh*t for this year’s lucky bag. THAT HOODIE IS SO CUTE! I’m also really really drooling over the coquettish one piece. I think the deciding factor that might sway me is knowing whether those 2 secret items might be accessories or clothes. Last year’s bag was only 10,800 yen so I’m curious as to what could justify that steep 5,000 yen price jump.
Brand: Cecil McBee
Options: Type A (fluffy poofy coat) or Type B (breasted coat)
Price: 10,000 yen (excluding tax)
Items: 9 (including bag)
Contents: Jacket, Skirt x 2, One Piece, Sweater (Sweater Dress?), Sweater,Hoodie, Blouse
Comments: I’m a sucker for bargains, which means I’m really on the verge about this lucky bag. Considering I live in Indonesia, I probably won’t put the jacket or sweater (sweater-dress?) to much use. But you could probably make a whole week of coords with this bag, and that means there’s VALUE!!! AHHHHHH. But at the same time, “conceit is much fine, life is only once”? Come on Cecil, you can do better than that..
This brand actually has several other lucky bags, but those are geared more towards workout gear/merch.
Brand: Cherite by Prime Pattern
Options: Just one type!
Price: 10,800 yen (including tax)
Items: 7 (including bag)
Contents: Blouse, Sweater, Skirt, Sweater Dress, Bag, Cardigan
Comments: This is definitely a surprise stunner because I have paid essentially zero attention to this brand, and then all of a sudden they come out with this incredible lucky bag. It’s sold out on their site, so if you like this, definitely go snag one on fashionwalker! You can do a lot with these six items since they all work so pleasantly together. The fact that there’s no jacket here is probably one of the reasons why I like it so much.
Options: Just one infamous angel bag
Price: 19,440 yen (including tax)
Items: 6 (including bag)
Contents: Blouse x 2, Dress, Outer (Jacket), Beret
Comments: The Swankiss Angel Bag is pretty famous. It just launched today (Nov 27) and was sold out on the site in like, less than an hour. Personally I don’t like it as much as I want to, and I definitely can’t justify the 19,400 yen price tag. I found the length of the dress and the coat to be a bit short. On top of that, one of the 5 clothing items you get is a beret—in my humble opinion, there are better options to get this year. The lace on the blouse is also really… OUT THERE..
Options: Black or Pink
Price: 16,200 yen (including tax)
Items: 6 (including bag)
Contents: Outer (Jacket), One Piece, Bag, 3 x Mystery
Comments: If it were up to me and I had to choose between Ank Rouge or this, I’d most likely go with Ank Rouge. Their one piece is very similar, and I prefer how Ank Rouge has designed theirs.
Brand: merry jenny
Options: White or Pink, but can’t choose
Price: 10,000 yen (excluding tax)
Items: 5 (including bag)
Contents: One Piece, Cap, Outer (Coat), Blouse, Bag
Comments: The dress is very cute, but everything else is meh. Nothing spectacular about this one, so I’m going to skip.
Options: Pink Beige or Light Grey, but can’t choose
Price: 12,960 yen (including tax)
Items: 5 (including bag)
Contents: Bag, Coat, Knit Dress, Skirt, Lace Top (“Bustier”)
Comments: I am very torn about this bag because I’m not sure what I’m going to get! I don’t love the previews enough to say, “Oh my god, I NEED this”. I like the outfits the models are wearing (see the photos below) but.. will I actually be getting anything even remotely similar to that? I was almost going to get this, but ultimately decided against it 🙁
Options: Beige or Grey, but can’t choose
Price: 10,800 yen (including tax)
Items: 6 (including bag)
Contents: Bag, Coat, Basic Skirt, Knit, Dress, ?
Comments: I love the dazzlin brand but I also can’t justify this purchase. I really hate blind buying, and I don’t want to spend that much money on things I may totally hate.
Okay! Phew, thanks for sticking around. Anyways, I really like the dominant color themes this year—grey, pinkish beige, white, black..
We can also see a shift in these brands to a more larme-esque style, which I love. Glen check is also featuring incredibly prominently, which is nice because we can see how different brands have interpreted the trend and choose which we like best.
Some other brands whose lucky bags I’m waiting on:
Rosemarie seoir (the Holy Grail)
and of course, Liz Lisa.
I’m actually a bit apprehensive about Liz Lisa because they’ve been doing so many patterned fukubukuro (I wasn’t a fan of the My Melody print from last year). I’m curious to see whether they’ll jump on the glen check trend as well. I hope that this post helped you out a bit, and thanks for stopping by <3
Hi guys! I wrote a variation of this post on my old blog, but it’s gone now. So I decided to rewrite it.
I have about Rp 3.000.000 in Koinworks: it’s a simple way of investing spare money, and they always have nice promos. Like this one:
Basically, all you have to do is sign up with the link above (or with the code 27967) and you’ll get a free Rp. 50.000 to invest. Pretty nice, right? I wish I had used a code before signing up.
Sign up: You’ll need a KTP, KITAS, or passport (that’s what I used). It’s very easy to sign up as long as you have a bank account and KTP in your name.
Fees: 1% from every borrower repayment, and Rp. 5.000 withdrawal fee
Minimum investment: Rp. 100.000 (This makes Koinworks ideal for newbie investors who just want to squirrel away some spare money at the end of the month. Other investment options, like Modalku, require upwards of Rp. 1.000.000)
Length of time: 1 to 12 months
Safety and guarantees: Loans are reviewed and rated by safety. “A” Grade loans are the safest, and if the payments default you will get your money back. The amount of money returned lowers with each grade, so you can choose how much risk you want to take.
Returns: My Net Annualized Return so far is 18.13%. Pretty good when you remember that mutual funds and other long-term deposit options tend to offer, at best, 7-8%. From Koinworks: “NAR is calculated using a formula where interest received, plus late fees received, minus the 1% service fee paid we divided by the outstanding principal amount of the loan at the beginning of that monthly payment period.”
Top-up: You can top up with a variety of methods. They create a Virtual Account just for you.
On the Portfolio tab, I can quickly see all of my investments. If I click on “Details”, I can then see the repayment schedule and amount. Different colored circles = different things. A green circle, for example, means that the person paid on time. A blue one means that they paid late. A red one means they haven’t paid at all, and missed the deadline.
So far, everyone has been paying on time (except for one guy, who paid a little late on both of his last installments).
Note: You do have to invest in Rp. 100.000 increments. For example, you can’t just invest Rp. 65.000 in a loan, or Rp. 250.000. It has to be an exact multiple of Rp. 100.000.
- Fast and easy to sign up
- Returns up to 30%
- Small starting amount
- Detailed look at loans and payment schedules
- Fast deposits and withdrawals
- 1% fees are a bit high
Overall, I think Koinworks is a safe, fun option for most people. I definitely recommend it for anyone who has some free time and wants to grow their money a bit. I think you’ll get the most out of this if you invest at least Rp. 100.000 a month (since there is a Rp. 5.000 withdrawal fee now).
Okay, thank you for your love! I’ll talk to you later ( I hope the weird mishmash of topics isn’t too offputting for you).
Aku tulis review ini 2 bahasa—Inggris dan Indonesia. Kenapa? Yaaa untuk latih Bahasa Indonesiaku, dan juga karena banyak pembaca blog ini yang memang berasal dari Indonesia. Maafin aku ya kalau ada yang salah..
Jadi beberapa minggu lalu sekitar Thanksgiving/Black Friday, aku… kekhilafan. Karena banyak promo di web store aku banyak belanja, dan salah satunya yang paling kunantikan adalah pembelian dari Better World Books, sebuah toko online yang menjual buku bekas dengan harga terjangkau. Tak hanya itu—BWB itu menyediakan gratis ongkir ke seluruh dunia. SELURUH DUNIA.
Tapi nggak hanya itu—untuk setiap buku yang kamu beli dari BWB, mereka akan mendonasikan satu buku.
Nah, pas aku buka-buka e-mail di hp, aku lihat ada yang menarik: “Use this discount code for an additional 30% off your order.” Wah, langsung deh—aku buka computer dan mulai tambah-tambahin buku ke keranjang belanja.
Tahun depan bakal ada banyak proyek rahasia yang akan ku kerjain—ada proyek cerpen, proyek puisi, dan proyek esai. Jadi semua pembelianku adalah buku sastra—puisi, esai, cerpen, dan satu buku hantu (karena iya, proyek cerpen itu ada hubungan sama mitologi dan hantuuu).
Teman-teman bisa lihat daftar buku yang aku beli disini:
Paling susah pas belanja di BWB adalah kurasi buku… Karena sebenernya masih ada 20-30 buku lagi yang aku pengen beli tapi nggak jadi. Apalagi sekarang bea cukai makin ketat, semua pembelian atas USD $75 kena bea cukai sekitar 20-30%. Kemarin aja belanja Liz Lisa bea cukainya total sekitar 1 jt.
Nah, aku akhirnya memutuskan untuk beli 12 buku ini, dan total setelah diskon agung itu hanya USD $58.53.
AKU SENANG BANGET TAU GA SIH BELANJA 12 BUKU hanya 850rb TER.MAS.UK ONG.KIR!!!!!! Buku import lagi!
O iya, di BWB bisa bayar pake Paypal atau bisa pake kartu kredit. Walaupun biasanya pake Paypal, aku pilih kartu debitku karena lebih gampang aja. Kalo teman-teman Indonesia belum punya kartu kredit atau hanya punya kartu debit nasional, mungkin bisa coba Jenius ya? Katanya bisa dapat semacem virtual kartu debit yang bisa dipake untuk transaksi internasional online. (Correct me if I’m wrong).
Placed order: Nov 26 2018
Order shipped notification: Nov 29 2018
Order arrival: Dec 18 2018
Jadi totalnya sekitar 3 minggu untuk nyampe ke Indonesia. Itu bagiku termasuk cepat, pernah aku tungguin paket dari USA 5 bulan. 3-4 minggu itu dari USA ke sini masih wajar banget.
Dusnya sebenernya bikin ragu sih:
Tapi ternyata nggak perlu khawatir. Karena… dun dun dun:
SHRIMPIES-KU, TERNYATA BUKUNYA BAGUS BANGET. HARDCOVER, ADA YANG DIWRAP PAKE PLASTIK KAYA BIASA BUKU DI PERPUS. Kondisinya top deh. Misalnya ya, total belanjaan 850rb untuk 12 buku, berarti satu buku sekitar 70rb. 70rb untuk buku lokal (terbitan Gramed, misalnya) kan wajar. Tapi biasanya di Gramed aja buku import bisa sampe 200, 300rb kan. Lah ini buku bekas perpus, udah jelas dirawat banget, kondisinya nyaris sempurna—hanya 70rb satuannya! AHHHHHHHHHH.
Ga ada sobek, ga ada cacat, ga ada bekas pulpen… hanya ada beberapa stamp dari perpus”nya. Sedikit kagum sih pas lihatnya. Bayangkan coba, bisa pegang buku dari berbagai negara bagian USA. Bikin kangen untuk pulang :’)
BWB memang sering punya sale (buy 4, get 20% off), tapi kalo mau borong yang banyak sepertinya tunggu untuk Black Friday sale. Aku ga tau sih setiap kapan mereka ada diskon gila-gilaan, ntar aku coba update ya.
No complaints from my end. Walopun dusnya agak mengerikan, buku-bukunya semua aman dan yaitu, nyaris sempurna. Ga ada penyok juga.
Kalo kamu ga masalah dengan buku bekas (yang menurutku ga bisa dipanggil ‘bekas’ juga karena kondisinya amat sangat bagus), mending beli di sini aja deh dibandingkan Book Depository.
Tapi, kalo yang kamu cari adalah buku terbaru, Book Depository juga lebih lengkap, walaupun bukunya lebih mahal (mulai dari sekitar 150rb kalo nggak salah).
Yaudah, aku mengakhiri di sini ya. Semoga postingan ini bermanfaat dan sekali lagi, mohon maaf ya untuk Bahasa Indonesiaku yang kacau balau. Semoga dengan waktu bisa lebih bagus :’)
So a few weeks ago, as most of you know, the Internet was aflame with Black Friday/Cyber Monday sales. I got a bit carried away because there were so many wonderful online shops I wanted to order from, but one of the orders I was most looking forward to was the one from Better World Books. It’s an online store that sells used books for super duper cheap, and the best part: FREE SHIPPING WORLDWIDE.
Not only that: for every book you order from them, they’ll donate a book to someone in need. I ordered 12 books, and they donated 12 books!
That week, when I was checking my e-mails on my phone, I saw a super interesting subject line: “Use this discount code for an additional 30% off your order.” Once I saw that, I immediately opened my laptop and began adding books to my cart.
So next year I’ll be working on a number of secret projects—a short story project, poetry project, and essay project. That’s why all the books in my order were literature books—poems, essays, short stories, and one book about ghosts (because the short story project has ghosty mythology stuff inside, yay).
You can check out the books that I ordered here:
Okay, the hardest part of shopping at BWB was choosing which books I wanted to buy. Because TBH there were like 20-30 other books that didn’t make it to my shopping cart :’) I was trying really hard to stay under the USD $75 limit that Indonesian customs places on incoming shipments, because once it’s over that amount they charge like 20-30% tax… I had a Liz Lisa order from two months ago that I had to pay, like, $75 for.
I chose to buy the 12 books that you see above—and the total after the amazing, heaven-sent discount was $58.53.
Y’ALL DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA HOW HAPPY I AM TO BE ABLE TO BUY 12 BOOKS FOR 58 BUCKS? WE DON’T HAVE LIBRARIES HERE AND THAT PRICE, INCLUDING SHIPPING, FOR IMPORTED BOOKS IS JUST A DREAM COME TRUE.
Oh, before I forget—you can pay for your purchase with Paypal or a credit card/debit card. If you’re an Indonesian and don’t have a credit card or international debit card, you could try downloading Jenius—I hear you’re able to create a virtual debit card that can be used for international online transactions (cmiiw).
Placed order: Nov 26 2018
Order shipped notification: Nov 29 2018
Order arrival: Dec 18 2018
So, it took about 3-4 weeks to get here (Indonesia) from the USA. I’d consider that speedy—I’ve waited up to five months for packages, so for me this is definitely a-ok (the box is kind of… uhhhhhh):
But it turned out that I didn’t need to worry. because..:
MY SHRIMPIES, THE BOOKS ARE AMAZING. SOME WERE EVEN HARDCOVER (I wasn’t expecting that), and they were wrapped in plastic (some of them) and the condition was so so so amazing. These are amazing for $5 books, I seriously want to cry.
No rips or tears or defects or pen marks.. It’s really amazing. There were a few stamps of the libraries where these books came from, but I think that’s very endearing because it lends so much history to these books. Seeing where all of them came from made me feel like going home.
BWB has a lot of random sales throughout the year, but I think the Black Friday additional 30% off all used books is the best one. I’m not sure if they have this sale at other points in the year, so once I find out, I’ll update this.
No complaints from my end. Though the box was a bit… scary, all of the books inside were super safe and in terrific condition. (No bubble wrap or anything, though).
If you don’t have any issues with used books (even though I wouldn’t call these used books since they’re just so damn gorgeous), I’d recommend shopping here vs. Book Depository.
However, if you’re looking for the latest and greatest books that have just recently been published, I think Book Depository is better—it has a larger current selection.
TL;DR: Book Depository for latest new books, Better World Books for classics, older, used books.
Note: There are 2 books I ordered that haven’t arrived yet since they’re shipping from different warehouses. No worries about those; I have a lot of confidence that they’ll be in wonderful condition like their siblings.
Anyways, I really hope you enjoyed this post and that you found it useful! Let me know where you usually order books from 🙂
I love Japanese fashion and makeup I’ll tell you a little story: when I was a girl I never really had a chance to try on makeup! So now that I’m a mother and a ~free woman~ I figured, its better late than never to learn how to be myself and enjoy my life!
This going to be my first review. I almost always buy used cosmetics because honestly I’m kind of a cheapo…Today I’m writing about the Canmake Stay-On Balm Rouge The shades are T02: Happy Tulip and 12: Little Plum Candy.
It’s a tinted lip balm that has been on the market for a few years now . Korean and Japanese makeup trends are still centered on light, natural, “dewy” looks, so colors tend to stay firmly pink (no reds or “weird” colors like blue or purple).
Anyways, I saw a Canmake ad in one of this year’s editions of Popteen magazine and fell in love with the company’s branding! It’s so cute, elegant, and sweet—just what I love ( ˘ ³˘)♡ I am a huge fan of the packaging, I love the flower print and the elegant golden caps, everything about this balm is so sweet and refined.
Here are the swatches! They’re both quite faint. The upper one is T02 and the lower one is Little Plum Candy. They are both pink, though Plum Candy is a bit redder, and they remind me of roses! These lip balms contain SPF, so you’ll get a bit of protection from the sun.
This is what the applicator looks like:
It is nice and perfect as a lip balm, but as a lip color I found it a little bit hard to apply because the tip is so large. It’s not very precise and I often had to wipe away the excess.
The first color was very soft and barely visible—it gives me the perfect pop of color I need for a lazy day out.
(My grandma often complains that I look too pale, and this is the perfect shade to add to my lips to make her stop fussing). Sometimes I like to dab the balm on my cheeks for a soft blush, too.
Here’s a color comparison without filters!
Overall this lip balm goes on very smoothly and feels just like other lip balms when applied My only complaint is that it feels a bit drying after about half an hour, so it isn’t very long-lasting. (Then again, most lip balms require frequent re-application) I like the colors and they do feel moisturizing on my lips. They don’t feel too oily or sticky, either.
I do like that even after licking my lips or eating, some of the color remains . I’m a really lazy girl so you’ll see in a lot of my future reviews that I heavily focus on products that are easy and quick to use .
I would give it a 8/10 because it has such a pretty color but doesn’t last very long.
(Bi, kenapa sih kamu nikah cepet amat?) There is…a very good reason for that which I am sure some of you have already guessed at, but I will neither confirm nor deny your suspicions until next month. So until then, you will have to make do with my writing and updates on other, somewhat less important topics.
In Indonesia, engagements work a bit differently than they do in America! Apalagiif you’re Chinese-Indonesian. Usually, in Chinese-Indonesian engagements (lamaran), the man’s family is invited to the house of a representative of the woman’s family. However, if no one in the family has accepted a proposal yet, the engagement will usually happen at a restaurant rather than at a home.
To provide a clearer anecdote: My mother is the youngest of five children, and none of her older siblings have son- or daughter-in-laws yet. That means we couldn’t hold the engagement at any of their houses. Because my beautiful mommy happens to be ten-thousand miles away in another country, the person who accepted the proposal in her place was my grandma (because she already has, you know, five children-in-law).
I was actually really debating about whether or not I should tell the rest of my friends on the Internet. I am not sure if I am expected to explain myself. People will inevitably ask, “Aren’t you too young to get married?” Perhaps. But it is, after all, a matter of perspective and, to some degree, necessity. I am being rather cryptic, I’m afraid, but I promise I will explain everything when I am ready. Suffice to say that I really am happy to be getting married and that even though I am decidedly young I am sure everything will flow peacefully if I let it.
(Sometimes, after all, the most beautiful paths are the ones we did not expect to take).
A serious meeting…with serious faces…hehehe…hoho..
Hi, it’s us again.
Yes, my…signature smile in which my eyes disappear. I think nearly every new person I have had the pleasure to meet here has commented on how oh my gosh when you smile your eyes disappear that is so weird.
older brother is an absolutely amazing photographer. I, being an obsessive stalker, immediately made these photos my computer background and lock screen. All of the photos in this blog post were taken by him, actually!
Truthfully, I was not expecting my marriage to come about so quickly. But, lest you forget, I am still a Catholic (in heart, and hopefully soon officially as well), and I place my faith in my ever-loving God. No matter what happens, He will lead me towards a brighter and kinder future, and everything will work out beautifully as long as we believe in Him.
My love, as always,
kuntilanak (don’t open that link if you’re easily scared: it’s a Wikipedia article about the creature) and other non-human beings abound here. So it’s natural for us to believe that ghosts exist, as do genies, evil spirits, and the like. Now, one general belief that I and most of my relatives share is that sometimes the spirits of the dead don’t always go to heaven when they pass away. Sometimes because they’ve done many cruel things during their lifetime, they must stay on earth. If they’re lucky, their descendants (children, grandchildren) and relatives will pray for them. Think about it as if they’re a criminal who must be tried before a judge. The criminal can’t lobby for his case by himself; he needs a lawyer and people who can help find proof that he’s innocent/should be forgiven. That’s what descendants and relatives do: intervene for the spirit. Sometimes, people who were cruel during their lifetime really can’t get to heaven. And they can’t go to heaven and bargain with God or St. Peter because they can no longer pray.
Thus, the responsibility falls on the descendants + relatives to ask for God’s mercy:
Lord, please forgive ________ and accept him/her at your side again.
The incredibly contentious topic of life-after-death and non-human existence really deserves its own post, so I’ll leave it at that)).
Anyways! We can also choose to pray to the dead during auspicious moments or to ask permission/blessings from our parents, which is why we went to Parangtritis this Wednesday.
According to Chinese tradition, when someone dies, they go to the afterlife, and how pleasant their life is depends on their children and descendants. Wealthy people who pass away are sent entire truckloads of paper silver and gold, which are burnt and become riches in their afterlife.
“Jangan foto-foto mulu sih ih, doa duluuuuuu.”
Erik also prayed to his paternal grandfather and his maternal grandmother who have passed away, asking for permission to get married and mohon berkat untuk pernikahannya.
Snacks for my family. I don’t know what these are called in English so you’ll have to be content with the pretty pictures.
Doing this makes it easier for the money to burn. (I thought it had some special meaning but I guess…not…? :’D)
We burnt the paper gold as a sort of offering to God. If you want to go to Six Flags or Dufan, you need to pay for admission, right? This is a similar concept: so that our prayers are communicated to our ancestors, we must “pay” God for admission as well as ask for permission:
Dear Lord, my name is ___________ and I would like to pray to/for _________.
The silver, however, is for Ngkong and my great-grandparents.
WOW IT’S FIRE WE’RE BURNIN’ THE MONEY SO IT’LL GO TO HEAVEN. Also if you look at the lettuce in the bowl, that serves as a sort of “appetizer”. Without the lettuce + hot water in the bowl, it’s said that our ancestors can’t eat the food we prepared.
Once we’re done praying, we throw the food into the ocean, where the waves will carry the food to Ngkong and Mak Co and Ngkong Co.
My face is grumpy because I was crying, not because I was trying to pick a fight with Erik :’)
Ngkong died when I was in fifth grade, around October. Two years prior he had come to visit New Jersey for two months with my grandma, Mak.
Each morning he would walk me to school (about ten-fifteen minutes away) and then give me a hug and a dollar or two before I left so that I could buy a snack or some stationery from the school store. He made me a coin bank out of a Gatorade bottle and would go out of his way to buy me snacks. Love, I suppose, needs no translations.
When I was a baby, my mother went to the United States to find a job so she could help support her growing family. During this time I stayed with Mak and Ngkong. From all the stories I hear, I was a really spoiled grandkid. He would piggyback me and buy me jajanan and we would walk around the neighborhood and spend a lot of time together.
Thinking back to all those times my grandfather visited and the simple ways he showed love to me (and others around him) made me realize that no matter how down I feel, I was and am still so loved. Wa Ie and Mak say that Erik is very similar to my grandfather, in that he is kind and generous, sometimes so much so that he forgets to take care of his own needs. “You need to take care of Erik,” they said to me, “because he is a very, very good person.” (It is much easier to learn to be smart than to learn to be kind, after all). So sometimes I wonder if perhaps Ngkong is still looking out for me and sent me a very wonderful person to help me, teach me such beautiful things, and fill my life with light.
I really, really miss Ngkong. I feel regretful sometimes that my mother and I were in America and weren’t able to attend his funeral. Wa Ie likes to tell the story of how they had to open Mak‘s house for six days so that people could pay their respects, because he had helped and touched so many peoples’ lives.
Perhaps that, more than being financially stable or well-known, is the true mark of success. Have you impacted others’ lives in a positive way? When you stand before the Lord and He asks you, “What have you done with the opportunities and gifts I gave you?”, will you be able to tell him how you have worked to help others, or will you pluck at excuses?
One of the things I love most about the culture I’ve come home to is that we still remember our family. We love, cherish, and honor their memories even after they have died.
Thank you, lovely honeybugs, for your well wishes and congratulations on my engagement. You mean the world to me and I am glad to call you my friends. I pray that your days bloom with light and wonder. May you find whatever it is that you are seeking in this lifetime.
So, on the second day of our trip to Bandung, we woke up pretty late. Around 8 in the morning, right? We were planning to stay up to go to Bukit Bintang in Dago, but the tattooing actually took about 3 hours and was only finished at 1 in the morning. By then we were absolutely pooped so we kind of just…fell asleep. Oops.
The Way There
Anyways, after some quick Googling, we decided to go to Tebing Keraton, which is apparently really beautiful. It’s a cliff from which you can see miles and miles of trees. We left by car from our hotel to the car park at Tebing Keraton, and let me warn you: the road is super, duper bumpy. Also it’s kind of scary, because if you look to the left or right of you you’ll notice that there’s an insanely steep incline. So basically, if you aren’t a pro driver, you might just… fall off.
Fortunately, Erik is a really amazing driver (he’s been driving since he was 14 or so?) and we got to the car park safely. It did start raining on the way, and that was cause for alarm since we didn’t want Baby getting wet or catching a cold.
The Hike Up
So you can’t actually get all the way up to Tebing Keraton unless you ride a motorcycle or hike up the rest of the way. This is because it’s way too steep and the traffic that would result due to a bunch of cars trying to make it up the hill would probably cause accidents. So you have two options:
1. Ride an ojek.
There are plenty of ojek who can ferry you up the hill on their motorbikes. It usually costs about Rp. 30.000 per person for a round trip (so up and then back down). Just make sure to haggle because if you look white or don’t speak Indonesian they’ll probably try to finagle you out of extra money.
2. Hike up.
Honestly, 1.7 kilometers is a bit tiring, but it’s definitely doable. And if I, a tiny little Asian girl with a baby, can do it, then I bet a hell of a lot of other people can too.
Keep in mind that if you do choose to hike and you’re a woman, they’ll probably hassle you for at least half of the way there..
Anyways! I promise, the view is definitely worth the hike! Sometimes the journey really is half of the battle. When your destination to Point A is too easy, it’s easy to feel underwhelmed once you’ve arrived. But because of that grueling hike up, I was really able to appreciate the cliff.
Isn’t it beautiful? Look at all those trees. I was so happy to come visit here! It looks like the mountains from those old Chinese paintings.
It’s beautiful! You can see farms and rice terraces down below, and the fog between the treetops is just so breathtaking. It was a really peaceful place, so different from the steel indifference of Jakarta. It made me so happy.
Tebing Keraton is located within a larger park. If you want to go back down the hill you have to exit the park (it’s about 30 seconds away from the ticket booth) and either hike back down or ride an ojek.
We decided to ride ojek on our way down. It started raining! We had to cover Baby in her breastfeeding cover and hope for the best. Fortunately, by the time we got to the car, the rain had mostly stopped. If you get hungry, you can grab snacks, eat instant noodles, or order meatball soup here.
This cliff is a beautiful sight that you definitely shouldn’t miss! If you’ve been hating the Indonesian heat, going to the higher elevations in Bandung is definitely a good decision. I wish we had spent more time here, but Baby was getting fussy and I had to go breastfeed her in a really dirty bathroom and then it started raining. So we decided to head back. I’d love to come back here. I’d love to live here, too.
Adventurers should try sneaking out of the fence and climbing down the rocks, but do be careful, please. It wasn’t that crowded there, which I really liked. I always feel sad when pleasant tourist destinations get really crowded because then no one has a good experience. If I had to rate it, I’d probably give it a 6/10. For native Indonesians or those who don’t get to see forests often, it’s amazing. I think it would’ve been even better if we had come for the sunrise–apparently that’s the best time to visit. Seeing the sun rise above the tree tops is apparently very moving and humbling.
Borobudur is probably the most famous and largest Buddhist temple in the world, located in Magelang, Central Java, Indonesia. Erik and I actually went sightseeing in this area about two weeks ago, back in Jogja (we’re back in Jakarta now because our wedding is tomorrow). But we left Jogja at around 1 pm and after stopping by Sendangsono (photos from Sendangsono will probably be up later tonight) and arrived at Borobudur just in time to see the sunset.
These domed structures are referred to as “stupa“, and in Buddhism, they are shrines. The Buddha is portrayed meditating within the stupa. (If you see the other stupa in the background–there are statues of the Buddha inside each of them, too).
We climbed like hell to get up to the top of the temple before the sunset. It was incredibly crowded, but we were lucky because Waze helped us take an alternative route. If we had stayed on the route we were originally on, we would’ve been late. We actually bought tickets to get in about 15 minutes before the ticket booths closed. (For reference, tickets into Borobudur are about Rp. 30.000 iirc).
He’s probably going to be jokingly annoyed with me for posting what he considers to be lame pictures of him, but…
In case photos of Borobudur bore you, here are photos of me which will hopefully inspire you to be less jaim and to have more fun in life. I’m pretty sure I was getting weird looks from people around me.
Here’s your typical, non-weird, touristy photo. I think this picture would be about 100x better without me in it…because then you can see the stupa. But the park was closing and the security guards were rushing us all off the park.
Before I arrived in Indonesia, I really wanted to learn traditional Indonesian dancing (there are actually a lot of different styles, so I don’t think that’s an appropriate/fitting term). I still don’t really have that opportunity, but maybe someday I’ll be able to learn.
Borobudur’s walls are decorated with narrative reliefs which tell the story of the Buddha. These reliefs were created in Javanese style. (You can see another example of Javanese architectural style if you stop by the Church at Ganjuran). Anyways! Borobudur apparently contains the most Buddhist reliefs of any monument in the world. There are 2,676 panels like this one and 504 Buddha statues in all, and then there are 72 stupas.
A lot more foreigners know about Borobudur than about Sendangsono, pictures from which I’ll post later. Borobudur is the most visited tourist attraction in this country! If you’re ever in Indonesia, make sure to stop by and watch the sunrise. Plan a lot of time here because you can (1) catch a whole lot of Pokemon and stop by a lot of Pokestops in the park/trail area of Borobudur and (2) get lost in all of the shops also situated on the grounds. Of course, you could come here for the culture and spend your day enjoying the reliefs and the architecture of the monument. (Cough, nerd).
So! I’m getting married tomorrow. I was expecting this post to be done earlier, but I got distracted. So I will probably post pictures from Sendangsono on Monday and then later in the week share some photos from the wedding with everyone! Thank you so much for all of your congratulations and, as always, may your day be filled with joy and blessings.